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There is a third aspect of leadership： Tao。 Periodically； the leader withdraws from the group and returns to silence； returns to God。
Being； doing； being 。。。 Tao。 I withdraw in order to empty myself of what has happened； you replenish my spirit。
A brilliant warrior does not make every possible brilliant intervention。 A knowing healer takes time to nourish self as well as others。
Such simplicity and economy is a valuable lesson。 It deeply affects the group。
The leader who knows when to listen； when to act； and when to withdraw can work effectively with nearly anyone； even with other professionals； group leaders； or therapists； perhaps the most difficult and sophisticated group members。
Because the leader is clear； the work is delicate and does not violate anybody's sensibilities。
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Too much force will backfire。 Constant interventions and instigations will not make a good group。 They will spoil a group。
The best group process is delicate。 It cannot be pushed around。 It cannot be argued over or won in a fight。
The leader who tries to control the group through force does not understand group process。 Force will cost you the support of the members。
Leaders who push think that they are facilitating process； when in fact they are blocking process。
They think that they are building a good group field； when in fact they are destroying its coherence and creating factions。
They think that their constant interventions are a measure of ability； when in fact such interventions are crude and inappropriate。
They think that their leadership position gives them absolute authority； when in fact their behaviour diminishes respect。
The wise leader stays centered and grounded and uses the least force required to act effectively。 The leader avoids egocentricity and emphasizes being rather than doing。
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The leader who understands how process unfolds uses as little force as possible and runs the group without pressuring people。
When force is used； conflict and argument follow。 The group field degenerates。 The climate is hostile； neither open nor nourishing。
The wise leader runs the group without fighting to have things a certain way。 The leader's touch is light。 The leader neither defends nor attacks。
Remember that consciousness； not selfishness； is both the means of teaching and the teaching itself。
Group members will challenge the ego of one who leads egocentrically。 But one who leads selflessly and harmoniously will grow and endure。
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There are times when it seems as if one must intervene powerfully； suddenly； and even harshly。 The wise leader does this only when all else fails。
As a rule； the leader feels more wholesome when the group process if flowing freely and unfolding naturally； when delicate facilitations far outnumber harsh interventions。
Harsh interventions are a warning that the leader may be uncentered or have an emotional attachment to whatever is happening。 A special awareness is called for。
Even if harsh interventions succeed brilliantly； there is no cause for celebration。 There has been injury。 Someone's process has been violated。
Later on； the person whose process has been violated may well become less open and more defended。 There will be a deeper resistance and possibly even resentment。
Making people do what you think they ought to be do does not lead toward clarity and consciousness。 While the may do what you tell them to do at the time； they will cringe inwardly； grow confused； and plot revenge。
That is why your victory is actually a failure。
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Tao cannot be defined。 One can only say that it is the single principle responsible for every event or thing。
When the leader has regard for this principle； and for no lesser theories； the group members trust the leader。 Because the leader pays equal attention to everything that happens； there are no prejudices to divide the group into faction。 There is unity。
Because the group work is grounded in an obvious and natural righteousness； rules and regulations are not needed to make people behave。
Even though the single principle cannot be defined； it is possible to explain what is happening in a group。 We speak of gestalt formation； of polarities； of flows and blocks； of interventions that either hinder or facilitate； and so on。
But too much theoretical talk distracts the group from what is happening； from the process itself。 Talking about process is one way to block process and lower the energy of the group field。
When that happens； the wise leader returns once again to an awareness of what is happening and to the single principle that lies behind what is happening。
In the long run； focusing on this single principle is the most potent aspect of leadership。 From this unity； we learn how things happen。
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To know how other people behave takes intelligence； but to know myself takes wisdom。
To manage other people's lives takes strength； but to manage my own life takes true power。
If I am content with what I have； I can live simply and enjoy both prosperity and free time。
If my goals are clear； I can achieve them without fuss。
If I am at peace with myself； I will not spend my life force in conflicts。
If I have learned to let go； I do not need to fear dying。
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The single principle can be found everywhere； all the time。 Everything works according to it。 Every life unfolds according to it。 The single principle does not say yes to this and no to that。
Even though Tao is the source of all growth and development； nothing profits Tao。 Tao benefits all without return and without prejudice。
Neither is the single principle private property。 You cannot own it。 It does not own you。
Its greatness lies in its universality。 It is all inclusive。
The wise leader follows this principle and does not act selfishly。 The leader does not accept one person and refuse to work with another。 The leader does not own people or control their lives。 Leadership is not a matter of winning。
The work done in order to shed the light of awareness on whatever is happening： also； selfless service； without prejudice； available to all。
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Do not get carried away by the group process。
Stick to the single principle。 Then you can do good work； stay free from chaos and conflicts； and feel present in all situations。
The superficial leader cannot see how things happen； even though the evidence is everywhere。 This leader is swept up by drama； sensation； and excitement。 All this confusion is blinding。
But the leader who returns again and again to awareness…of…process has a deep sense of how things happen。 This leader has a simple time of it。 The sessions flow smoothly； and when the group ends； the leader is still in good spirits。
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All behaviours contain their opposites：
… Hyper…inflation leads to collapse。
… A show of strength suggests insecurity。
… What goes up must come down。
… If you want to prosper； be generous。
Also：
… The feminine outlasts the masculine。
… The feminine allows； but the