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one intended act of horror； Crebillon was sensible of this defect； and to create another interest； most absurdly made Catiline in love with Cicero's daughter； and her with him。
I am very glad that you went to Versailles； and dined with Monsieur de St。 Contest。 That is company to learn 'les bonnes manieres' in； and it seems you had 'les bonnes morceaux' into the bargain。 Though you were no part of the King of France's conversation with the foreign ministers； and probably not much entertained with it； do you think that it is not very useful to you to hear it； and to observe the turn and manners of people of that sort？ It is extremely useful to know it well。 The same in the next rank of people； such as ministers of state； etc。； in whose company； though you cannot yet； at your age； bear a part； and consequently be diverted； you will observe and learn； what hereafter it may be necessary for you to act。
Tell Sir John Lambert that I have this day fixed Mr。 Spencer's having his credit upon him； Mr。 Hoare had also recommended him。 I believe Mr。 Spencer will set out next month for some place in France； but not Paris。 I am sure he wants a great deal of France； for at present he is most entirely English： and you know very well what I think of that。 And so we bid you heartily good…night。
LETTER CLXIII
LONDON； March 16； O。 S。 1752
MY DEAR FRIEND： How do you go on with the most useful and most necessary of all studies； the study of the world？ Do you find that you gain knowledge？ And does your daily experience at once extend and demonstrate your improvement？ You will possibly ask me how you can judge of that yourself。 I will tell you a sure way of knowing。 Examine yourself； and see whether your notions of the world are changed； by experience； from what they were two years ago in theory； for that alone is one favorable symptom of improvement。 At that age （I remember it in myself） every notion that one forms is erroneous； one hath seen few models； and those none of the best； to form one's self upon。 One thinks that everything is to be carried by spirit and vigor； that art is meanness； and that versatility and complaisance are the refuge of pusilanimity and weakness。 This most mistaken opinion gives an indelicacy； a 'brusquerie'； and a roughness to the manners。 Fools； who can never be undeceived； retain them as long as they live： reflection； with a little experience； makes men of sense shake them off soon。 When they come to be a little better acquainted with themselves；and with their own species； they discover that plain right reason is； nine times in ten； the fettered and shackled attendant of the triumph of the heart and the passions； and； consequently； they address themselves nine times in ten to the conqueror； not to the conquered： and conquerors； you know； must be applied to in the gentlest； the most engaging； and the most insinuating manner。 Have you found out that every woman is infallibly to be gained by every sort of flattery； and every man by one sort or other？ Have you discovered what variety of little things affect the heart； and how surely they collectively gain it？ If you have； you have made some progress。 I would try a man's knowledge of the world； as I would a schoolboy's knowledge of Horace： not by making him construe 'Maecenas atavis edite regibus'； which he could do in the first form； but by examining him as to the delicacy and 'curiosa felicitas' of that poet。 A man requires very little knowledge and experience of the world； to understand glaring； high… colored； and decided characters； they are but few； and they strike at first： but to distinguish the almost imperceptible shades； and the nice gradations of virtue and vice； sense and folly； strength and weakness （of which characters are commonly composed）； demands some experience； great observation； and minute attention。 In the same cases； most people do the same things； but with this material difference； upon which the success commonly turns： A man who hath studied the world knows when to time； and where to place them； he hath analyzed the characters he applies to； and adapted his address and his arguments to them： but a man； of what is called plain good sense； who hath only reasoned by himself； and not acted with mankind； mistimes； misplaces； runs precipitately and bluntly at the mark； and falls upon his nose in the way。 In the common manners of social life； every man of common sense hath the rudiments； the A B C of civility； he means not to offend； and even wishes to please： and； if he hath any real merit； will be received and tolerated in good company。 But that is far from being enough； for； though he may be received； he will never be desired； though he does not offend； he will never be loved； but； like some little； insignificant； neutral power； surrounded by great ones； he will neither be feared nor courted by any； but； by turns； invaded by all； whenever it is their interest。 A most contemptible situation！ Whereas； a man who hath carefully attended to； and experienced； the various workings of the heart； and the artifices of the head； and who； by one shade； can trace the progression of the whole color； who can； at the proper times； employ all the several means of persuading the understanding； and engaging the heart； may and will have enemies； but will and must have friends： he may be opposed； but he will be supported too； his talents may excite the jealousy of some； but his engaging arts will make him beloved by many more； he will be considerable； he will be considered。 Many different qualifications must conspire to form such a man； and to make him at once respectable and amiable； the least must be joined to the greatest； the latter would be unavailing without the former； and the former would be futile and frivolous； without the latter。 Learning is acquired by reading books； but the much more necessary learning； the knowledge of the world； is only to be acquired by reading men； and studying all the various editions of them。 Many words in every language are generally thought to be synonymous； but those who study the language attentively will find； that there is no such thing； they will discover some little difference； some distinction between all those words that are vulgarly called synonymous； one hath always more energy； extent； or delicacy； than another。 It is the same with men； all are in general； and yet no two in particular； exactly alike。 Those who have not accurately studied； perpetually mistake them； they do not discern the shades and gradations that distinguish characters seemingly alike。 Company； various company； is the only school for this knowledge。 You ought to be； by this time； at least in the third form of that school； from whence the rise to the uppermost is easy and quick； but then you must have application and vivacity； and you must not only bear with； but even seek restraint in most companies； instead of stagnating in one or two only； where indolence and love of ease may be indulged。
In the plan which I gave you in my last；＇That letter is missing。＇ for your future motions； I forgot to tell you； that； if a king of the Romans should be chosen this year； you shall certainly be at that election； and as； upo